Marriage Don'ts ft. Kim Kardashian

So in honor of the Kimye proposal on KUWTK last week I thought I'd give my two cents on Kim's last trip to the alter.

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Personally I'm hoping the third time is a charm for Kim K (especially because each time she gets engaged I feel like the ring gets bigger, have you seen the rock that Kanye got her?!), but it's hard to tell since we see so little of her and Kanye actually interacting on camera. This may be a step in the right direction already! But fortunately for us, E! captured the entire rise and fall of the DoubleK love story on Kim and Kourtney Take New York. After seeing the 72 day marriage unfold on the show, I have to say they are the poster children for a divorce waiting to happen.

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1) They fell into a lot of at risk categories.

Kim and Kris weren't exactly starting with a clean slate when they got married. They fell into quite a few risk categories for couples which by no means guarantee divorce, but definitely do more to work against the couple than to work in their favor.

• Kris was Kim's second husband. Remarriage increases risk of divorce because at least one member of the couple already sees divorce as an acceptable option. They've experienced a marriage that was not permanent and if their new marriage isn't working out the way they hoped, they will be more likely to choose divorce as a solution. 
• Kim and Kris only dated for 6 months before getting engaged. Studies show that when a courtship lasts less than 2 years, the couple's relationship is not nearly as stable as couples who have dated longer. It doesn't mean they aren't in love, but they haven't had time to fully integrate their lives. With such demanding work schedules I can't imagine Kris and Kim even spent much of that 6 months in the same state, let alone the same room! They don't have a lot of shared routines and rituals which doesn't leave them with a great foundation for marriage.
• Kim's a child of divorce. Kim's parents (Robert Kardashian and Kris Jenner) got divorced when Kim was 11. Similar to Kim's own first marriage ending in divorce, seeing her parents end their marriage makes divorce a familiar option that seems normal to her. Like with most things, the more you see something occur, the more normal it seems.

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2) They apparently didn't talk about ANYTHING before they tied the knot.

After Kris and Kim got married, they immediately moved into the temporary housing Kim had in NYC while she was shooting K&KTNY. But obviously they had plans for when the show wrapped, right? Not exactly. In fact they didn't really have much of a plan for anything. Kris seemed to be under the impression that they were going to split their time between Minnesota and California, especially once they had kids. Kim on the other hand was having none of that. She told him flat out that she would never, EVER, move to Minnesota and had no intentions of slowing down career-wise once they had kids. Might have been useful to know that before they got married? 

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3) Even after marriage, they still don't seem to be communicating.  

After an interesting attempt at a long distance marriage, Kim and Kris decide that Kris living in Minnesota with Kim staying in New York was not the right approach to fix their relationship. They decide that instead they should have a baby! (Public Service Announcement: BABIES DO NOT FIX RELATIONSHIPS). But anyways, after a brief 30 second discussion about how a baby is the next step for them, Kim decides that her birth control is a thing of the past. Over the next few days Kris gets excited but Kim starts to have second thoughts. So now Kim has two options: she can go to Kris and tell him her concerns because they have a strong partnership where both people feel comfortable communicating their feelings and desires OR she can secretly start taking her birth control again and let Kris think they are actively trying to conceive in order to "avoid a blow to his ego." I'll let you guess which one she picks!

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4) He didn't think very highly of her.

Although Kris might not have had a way with words, he was definitely...honest? Perhaps the most cringeworthy moment of the whole DoubleK fiasco was when Kris told Kim that of course they could move to Minnesota because by the time they have kids Kim will be irrelevant to society!  Not exactly the most respectful way to speak to your wife. It definitely shows how much he values her (or doesn't) as a person and as a professional. This probably has something to do with why she doesn't want to talk to him about anything important. But again, it might have been nice to know he was kind of a butt-head before she vowed to spend the rest of her life with him. 

So the moral of the story is pre-marital counseling ftw.

So I hope you enjoyed my term paper turned blog post (I'm not kidding, I originally wrote this for a class. College is so fun!) Let me know in the comments if you keep up with the Kardashians and what you think of Kim and Kanye!